Baz\u0131 insanlar hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda yaln\u0131zca \u00fcz\u00fclmez; kendi i\u00e7inde yarg\u0131lan\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feyden \u00e7ok, nas\u0131l biri oldu\u011fuyla ilgili sert sonu\u00e7lara varabilir. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k bile zihinde h\u0131zla ki\u015fili\u011fe d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cYetersizim.\u201d
\u201cDisiplinsizim.\u201d
\u201cAsla d\u00fczelmeyece\u011fim.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\nBu i\u00e7 ses \u00e7o\u011fu zaman yaln\u0131zca bug\u00fcne ait de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan, kendisiyle konu\u015fma bi\u00e7imini bo\u015flukta \u00f6\u011frenmez. \u00c7ocuklukta kurulan ili\u015fkiler, bak\u0131m verenlerin dili, ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n nas\u0131l kar\u015f\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve hatalar\u0131n nas\u0131l yorumland\u0131\u011f\u0131 zamanla ki\u015finin i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n bir par\u00e7as\u0131 haline gelir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar sevildi\u011fini daha \u00e7ok ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 oldu\u011funda hisseder. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda yaln\u0131zca davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fil, karakterinin ele\u015ftirildi\u011fini deneyimler. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise duygular\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterdi\u011finde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsenir ya da geri \u00e7ekilen bir ili\u015fkiyle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zihin tekrar eden ili\u015fkileri \u00f6\u011frenir. Bir s\u00fcre sonra d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan gelen denetim i\u00e7eride kurulmaya ba\u015flar. \u00c7ocukken d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan duyulan ses, yeti\u015fkinlikte ki\u015finin kendi sesi haline gelir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n\u0130\u00e7sel Ele\u015ftiri Nas\u0131l Bir Sisteme D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr?<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
Cezaland\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 i\u00e7 konu\u015fma yaln\u0131zca d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsel bir al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k de\u011fildir. Zamanla ki\u015finin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131, ili\u015fkilerini ve kendilik alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczenleyen bir sisteme d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00dcstelik bu sistem yaln\u0131zca hatalarda de\u011fil, ba\u015far\u0131 anlar\u0131nda da \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ki\u015fi yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 olumlu \u015feyleri, g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi \u00e7abay\u0131 ya da elde etti\u011fi ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131 takdir etmek yerine bunlar\u0131 \u201czaten yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken\u201d g\u00f6revler gibi g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flayabilir. B\u00f6ylece ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan doyum, haz ve yeterlilik hissi daha ya\u015fanamadan bast\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir i\u015fi tamamlad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda durup memnuniyet hissedemez; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc zihni \u00e7oktan s\u0131radaki eksikli\u011fi aramaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ba\u015far\u0131 k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli bir rahatlama yarat\u0131r ama kal\u0131c\u0131 bir tatmin olu\u015fturmaz. Ki\u015fi s\u00fcrekli daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 yapmak zorundaym\u0131\u015f gibi hissederken, asl\u0131nda kendi motivasyon sistemini fark etmeden sabote etmeye ba\u015flayabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\nModern Ya\u015fam\u0131n Bask\u0131s\u0131<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
Modern ya\u015fam da \u00e7o\u011fu zaman bu i\u00e7 sesi besler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
S\u00fcrekli \u00fcretmenin, hep daha iyisini yapman\u0131n ve durmadan kendini geli\u015ftirmenin idealize edildi\u011fi bir d\u00fczende ki\u015fi yaln\u0131zca ya\u015fayan biri olmaktan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p, s\u00fcrekli kendini optimize etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir performans \u00f6znesine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dinlenmek tembellik gibi, yava\u015flamak ise ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k gibi hissedilebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u00f6ylece ki\u015fi yaln\u0131zca d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyan\u0131n beklentileriyle de\u011fil, kendi i\u00e7inde kurdu\u011fu ac\u0131mas\u0131z denetim sistemiyle de ya\u015famaya ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\nKendimizle Kurdu\u011fumuz Dil<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
Kendimizle kurdu\u011fumuz ili\u015fkide kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z dil belirleyici bir rol oynar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc dil yaln\u0131zca d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimizi de\u011fil; duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ve kendimize bak\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imimizi de \u015fekillendirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen insan\u0131n kendisine y\u00f6neltti\u011fi dili d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmesi, kendisiyle kurdu\u011fu ili\u015fkiyi de yava\u015f yava\u015f d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmeye ba\u015flayabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Baz\u0131 insanlar hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda yaln\u0131zca \u00fcz\u00fclmez; kendi i\u00e7inde yarg\u0131lan\u0131r. Yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feyden \u00e7ok, nas\u0131l biri oldu\u011fuyla ilgili sert sonu\u00e7lara varabilir. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":284,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-283","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/283","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=283"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/283\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":285,"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/283\/revisions\/285"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/284"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=283"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=283"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psikologmuhammetduran.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=283"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}